If you have separated from your spouse and there are minor children between the two of you, then co-parenting is probably something you have worked to figure out. Co-parenting can be difficult, especially during the holidays. Whether you are newly divorced or have been separated from your spouse for some time, it would not hurt to look at some tips to help make co-parenting during the holidays a little easier. From the Law Offices of Stephanie L. Mahdavi, our Westlake Village child custody attorneys offer some advice here today.
Co-parenting is hard at the end of the year. The holiday season is a time that many people associate with happy families. Even if you are separated from your spouse, there are still some steps you can take to enjoy a successful co-parenting holiday season.
You probably have a fairly regular co-parenting schedule that does not deviate much from month to month. However, there will likely be a flurry of school activities for the children and holiday events involving the adults. Familiarize yourself with everybody’s schedule and recognize this will not be a normal time of the year. Take another look at any court-ordered custody arrangements to see how they prescribe the holiday season.
After you take a look at your court order, stay in regular contact with your ex-spouse. If there are any potential issues with visitation or exchanges, try to make a plan that suits everybody’s best interests. Open communication with your former spouse can help avoid any emergency trips to the family court. This would only be a disruption on everybody’s holiday season.
Make a calendar that documents all of the holiday events as well as the days the children are with each parent throughout the holiday season. Splitting time between parents during the holidays can be difficult for children, but making the plans visible means they will not be caught off guard.
Understand that holiday plans can be hectic. Flights can change and relatives can unexpectedly show up. Try to remain flexible during the holiday season, particularly with your child’s schedule. Holidays are often the only time of year when extended families can travel together and see the children.
Regardless of the situation or your relationship with your former spouse, there is no such thing as a perfect holiday. Try to remain positive throughout this time of year. Children can pick up on a parent’s stress and displeasure. If you remain positive, chances are they will too.
Going through a divorce or separation when there are minor children involved is never easy. If you are in the beginning stages of a divorce or anticipate that you will be soon, consider seeking assistance from an attorney. Even if just for an initial consultation, you can count on the Law Offices of Stephanie L. Mahdavi to steer you in the right direction. Our Westlake Village divorce and child custody attorneys are ready to handle all aspects of your separation. We will ensure you are treated fairly throughout the process and will work towards a favorable resolution on your behalf. You can contact us for a consultation by clicking here or calling 805-379-4550.